A Day for Danny

One question often asked is “Why do bad things happen to good people?” I have come to the conclusion that things in and of themselves are neither good or bad. They simply happen, the measure of the person they affect lies in their reaction. Matthew 5:45 states this well, “That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.

We can all be crushed by circumstances beyond our control, rising above our personal pain is what makes us good people. If you have never been tested, you are only potentially a good (or bad) person. One person who is currently being tested is Dan Scimeca, retired Chief of Police from Manasquan New Jersey, and husband of a High School friend of mine, Colleen (Walker) Scimeca. Not that he has not had other tests in life, and proven himself thoroughly, but as “Q” says to Captain Picard in the final episode of Star Trek; The Next Generation, the trial never ends.

Colleen has worked for years raising funds for ALS, being involved with the Valentine Plunge each year. In an amazing twist of irony, Dan was diagnosed with ALS earlier this year. They are both weathering this storm with grace.

Yesterday was a day of that rare event, Karma making itself obvious. Over eight hundred of Colleen and Dan’s friends gathered to raise funds for Dan and others who have ALS, packing Leggetts Sand Bar for “A Day for Danny.” It was quite amazing, the building was overflowing, and despite the great music from Ronnie and The Engineers, far too crowded to dance, or even move through the room. A small group of Colleen’s High School friends managed to stake claim to a table outside, driving in from as far away as Iowa. That’s me in the lower left corner.


The gang from NPHS, almost forty years in the making

The gang from NPHS, almost forty years in the making

Yes, we had fun, we always do. We are also comfortable supporting friends in need, there is a charitable streak that runs through this group, championed by Tim Sickel (who is not pictured because he took the above photograph).

I don’t know what the final tally for funds raised is, a low estimate would be $40,000, a drop in the bucket when it comes to the special needs of a family dealing with ALS. The love shared is immeasurable, just a wonderful thing to witness.

Your financial situation has nothing to do with your charitable contributions. You may not have money to share, but you have a heart to love others with. If all you can do is smile then do that. Helping a stranger find something in the grocery store doesn’t cost anything, kind words are free, why not share them?

We are all human, we have more in common with each other than we have differences. We are family, lifting up a fallen brother will never cause you to fall.








4 comments on “A Day for Danny

  1. Mari Collier says:

    Too many believe we will be rewarded on Earth. It doesn’t happen that way. Prayers for your friend and her husband. ALS is a horrific disease. Thanks for posting.

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  2. Mike R says:

    What a heartwarming display of love~! And, whose that old dude on the front left?

    Why do bad things happen to good people? So often in the Psalms, as well as the Prophets and, of course, the Book Of Job, man asks that question of God. Indeed he does send rain upon all. And it perplexes us why the worst of us are not seemingly afflicted in the same way as those who love God (as they are loved by God.) For the nonbeliever who would rather measure on a human scale, there are certainly those who exceed the average badness in life.

    The answer, in the Bible, can be found, although it will not satisfy us completely — that God is wholly just and wholly good. He will not allow the smallest transgression against his law and person to escape recompense, when that final day arrives. That is surely of some comfort until I realize that I have a gazillion sins that must be dealt with justly. Praise God he has justified me in the punishment of Jesus on the Cross.

    For those without a belief in God, I suppose a sense of karma is looked for–some sort of force that always balances the tables. Perhaps we hope it would be as predictable and assured as the sun rising each morning.

    In the interim, we live in the suffering. All of us do. To reach out as you and your group has done is surely a good example of the use of that part of us that resembles the image of God. Love, even as you say–a smile if that is all you can do–can lift a weary spirit and ease those portions of our and their lives through the darkness.

    As Paul instructed the Corinthians–there is nothing that we should pursue more highly or intently than love.

    Thanks for another very thoughtful bit of writing and for sharing your experiences with ALS. You have certainly lifted me.

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